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It is. It is. It is. I know it is cuz I said it's so. It is. It is. It is. I know it is cuz I said it's so.

2007-05-22

Good morning Boys and Girls.

Ever meet someone who says the same things over and over again so often that it quickly becomes their truth, whether whatever it is has any basis in reality or not?

It can be frustrating to be friends with such folks. You dare not point out that the self-talk might be harmful, or that what they're telling themselves might simply not be so, because, let's face it, if they can sway themselves so easily, it's no great stretch to think that they'll just as easily convince themselves that you're out to "get them" by virtue of the same practice.

My grandmother on my Dad's side was that way. Once she got an idea in her head, it went from mere "notion" to an etched-in-concrete "fact" in absolutely no time. Man oh man, anyone who'd even ask about the genesis of a situation that had become the foundation of any of her loudly espoused "beliefs" would instantaneously become a life-long enemy, and a footnote to the story in question. It was soooo tiring. When she died, I wasn't even sad.

I remember the morning my Dad died.

My brother and I - still in shock after leaving the hospital - we decided to drive over to my Grandma's to let her know about the sudden death of her son. She was still "with it" to the extent she ever had been, meaning she was sharp as a tack (or a dagger) but her health had been slowly waning for a few years. She must have been near eighty.

She answered our knock within a few seconds and immediately began the sarcastic remarks. "Ohhhh. What brings YOU here? Somebody die?" I'm not kidding.

"As a matter of fact," my brother said, "yes."

After we told her, she complained we hadn't let her know sooner. She complained she hadn't seen her daughter in two weeks. She started to go into a patented story about her former friend who'd owned an import store and who'd slighted her in some way years earlier and whose name had soon after become Grandma's own personal synonym for evil. My brother and I just looked at each other and left.

Sometimes? -that's all you can do.


Be good to everyone.

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